Recorded on Halloween Eve, with my ofrenda almost finished and my mom and dad looking back at me from it. A little long this time... I had a lot to say.
Do you know you’re a people pleaser, wince at the thought, and secretly wish you weren’t one? Me too. I come from a long line of them.
In this episode, I talk about why that label isn’t an indictment of your character, and why every time I tried to just will myself into being the kind of person who easily just says “NO!”, it didn’t stick.
What finally started to shift things was getting underneath the thinking mind. I named the people-pleasing chapter of my book “If They’re Happy, I’m Safe,” because that’s what our nervous systems learned, in our own childhoods and even before that, from the DNA passed down to us.
I talk about why EFT tapping is one of my favorite tools for calming that alarm, a little about Human Design and the transformation that’s possible in moving from sympathetic but resentful caregiver to caring with boundaries, and what happened last week when I woke up sick, canceled the pumpkin patch with my grandson, and chose me.
If you’re ready to start choosing YOU, or at least put yourself back on your own list, come spend 90 minutes with me on Tuesday, November 10th, at 4:00 pm Pacific / 7:00 pm Eastern for Stop Putting Yourself Last, a free live workshop on Zoom.
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