Sarah, I’m so sorry you are going through this, but please don’t blame yourself. I don’t see you as being a people pleaser in this situation. You were an understandably anxious patient, and no one in a state of anxiety can advocate for themselves. You called on your sister and Randy, and they helped, but it’s not your fault the doctor left before you could ask the questions your sister suggested. You were caught in our fucked up health care system. It’s about the system, not you.
Thanks @Louisa Rogers! Yes, I do understand it’s about this fucked up system. But I have to say I WAS struck by the realization of how I sort of shut down in these medical settings. When I looked back to other situations I realized I have not been a great advocate for myself. I don’t feel bad about this, and I’m not blaming myself - it’s just good to realize!
Oh Sarah, I’m so glad you listened to that feeling and got checked. I totally get that feeling of worrying you’d take up too much of the doctor’s time. Even in a moment like that, we’re thinking about everyone else! I hope you’re giving yourself some grace, too. Knowing these patterns doesn’t mean we’ll always catch them while something scary is happening. Thank you for sharing this so honestly. Sending you so much love, and I hope you’re getting the answers and care you need. 💜
Hi Sarah, what struck me most was how easily fear and uncertainty can cause us to disengage when we most need to stay present and ask questions. An ER can be overwhelming, especially when something unexpected and potentially serious is happening.
Your experience is such an important reminder that we need to remain participants in our own care, even when we are frightened. Asking what is happening, what is being recommended, why, what the risks are and what comes next is not being difficult. It is advocating for ourselves.
I hope the clot resolves quickly and completely, and that this experience leaves you feeling more confident about asking every question you need answered. No one has a greater stake in your health than you do.
Sarah, I’m so sorry you are going through this, but please don’t blame yourself. I don’t see you as being a people pleaser in this situation. You were an understandably anxious patient, and no one in a state of anxiety can advocate for themselves. You called on your sister and Randy, and they helped, but it’s not your fault the doctor left before you could ask the questions your sister suggested. You were caught in our fucked up health care system. It’s about the system, not you.
Thanks @Louisa Rogers! Yes, I do understand it’s about this fucked up system. But I have to say I WAS struck by the realization of how I sort of shut down in these medical settings. When I looked back to other situations I realized I have not been a great advocate for myself. I don’t feel bad about this, and I’m not blaming myself - it’s just good to realize!
Oh Sarah, I am sorry to know about the clot. May your path to healing be easy.
Thank you @Marcia Danab. I so appreciate your good wishes!
Oh Sarah, I’m so glad you listened to that feeling and got checked. I totally get that feeling of worrying you’d take up too much of the doctor’s time. Even in a moment like that, we’re thinking about everyone else! I hope you’re giving yourself some grace, too. Knowing these patterns doesn’t mean we’ll always catch them while something scary is happening. Thank you for sharing this so honestly. Sending you so much love, and I hope you’re getting the answers and care you need. 💜
Hi Sarah, what struck me most was how easily fear and uncertainty can cause us to disengage when we most need to stay present and ask questions. An ER can be overwhelming, especially when something unexpected and potentially serious is happening.
Your experience is such an important reminder that we need to remain participants in our own care, even when we are frightened. Asking what is happening, what is being recommended, why, what the risks are and what comes next is not being difficult. It is advocating for ourselves.
I hope the clot resolves quickly and completely, and that this experience leaves you feeling more confident about asking every question you need answered. No one has a greater stake in your health than you do.